Why Is Blogging So Hard?
How many bloggers would still be blogging if they knew how hard it was going to be when they started?
How many people would even consider blogging as a career or even a side hustle if they had any idea how challenging it would be?
On the surface, the answer is simple; the ones still doing it after months or years of struggling.
Blogging has been challenging the last few weeks. I mean, really hard. I haven’t been on top of publishing my weekly blog posts or engaging as much on Twitter, or commenting on blog posts.
Now, I don’t mean the writing has been challenging when I say hard. I have done a ton of writing this last month. I am not writing stuff appropriate for this space, but I can write when I want to write. Writing is not the issue.
Neither are any other multitudes of tasks that a blogger must regularly complete to keep a blog up and running. I am well past the point of learning the fundamental basics of publishing a blog post. Having been around for a while now, I like to think I know how blogging should be done, and I know where to go if I have any questions.
So what’s the problem?
Why is blogging so hard?
Discipline Is Hard
For many years I have shown up for work on time. I did what was expected of me, frequently a whole lot more. Sometimes even did jobs I didn’t want to do for people who didn’t care about me as much as their bottom line.
Yet, I showed up.
It’s called discipline.
Discipline: training people to obey rules or a code of behavior.
I was doing exactly what I was taught.
Show up, work hard – Show up, work hard – Show up, work hard. Over and over again.
One would think that after years of showing up and working hard for someone else, doing the same for ourselves would be a breeze.
After all, I walk across the hall from my bedroom to my office to show up for blogging. I don’t even have to get dressed to write a blog post if I don’t want to. I have even sat on my bed, laptop on my lap, and worked on lazy days.
So why is it so hard to show up?
Why can we readily sacrifice our time and, in extreme cases, our health and sanity for someone who doesn’t matter, but we can’t do that for ourselves?
It doesn’t make sense, does it?
How can we practice that same discipline to ensure the growth and success of our business that we so readily offer to others?
More importantly, how do we do this consistently?
Consistency Is Hard
To be disciplined is one thing, but quite another to be consistent.
Showing up for a week is easy.
A month might not be so bad.
That is a long time for some, and they have trouble looking that far ahead.
Beyond that, forget it.
Every blogger knows the importance of maintaining a consistent publishing schedule and networking.
It’s been a month since I published a weekly blog post.
I have stayed away from social media and the internet in general for the most part. I check-in and reply as needed, but that’s about it.
My brain keeps telling me, “you have to write a blog post,” I keep replying, “I will.”
There are no excuses.
I have learned that excuses are just a cover-up for a deeper issue.
I think discipline and consistency are the basic foundations of every successful person. Both can be learned, and to be effective must be practiced daily. Whenever we start on a new endeavor, we always begin strong regardless of whatever it is. We show up, do the work, and do it with enthusiasm. Then bam, excuses.
So, what is the issue?
I’m not exactly sure what your issue is? Why haven’t you been able to stay disciplined and consistent even though you say you want your blog to be successful more than anything.
Maybe it has to do with:
- fear of failure
- fear of success
- not fully understanding blogging
- you still make excuses
- you haven’t practiced discipline or consistency, so you don’t know what that looks like
- lack of support
- not happy with the path you have chosen
- you aren’t getting the results you want or expected
- I don’t have time
This list could be endless.
They are only excuses covering up a deeper issue.
“I’m not disciplined or consistent because I’m afraid I fail or succeed.” That fear keeps you from doing what you could do.
“I didn’t have time to write a blog post because I had to work, my kid was sick, I was binge-watching Netflix.”
“I’ve been doing this for 6 months and haven’t made any money yet.”
At some point in my blogging (life) journey, every one of these thoughts has crossed my mind, along with countless others.
You are not alone, but you do have a choice to make.
Face It Or Don’t
I started diving into personal development about 2-3 years ago. I have read many great books covering everything from mindset, goal setting, changing the way we think, manifesting, and using affirmations and secrets to success.
Reading these books led to books on self-healing and overcoming trauma etc.
Which eventually led to the realization that I have a shit ton of work to do on myself.
Did you ever pick your scabs when you were a kid?
I did. It was a disgustingly fascinating process. I would pick a thick hard scab off a knee or elbow and watch it bleed until it slowly clotted and began the process of forming another scab. Sometimes it would ooze puss, so I would pour on peroxide and watch it bubble. Then a couple of days later, I would pick the scab off again. It would be considerably smaller than the first one and wouldn’t bleed or ooze as much. I would continue this process until my knee or elbow was healed. I would always thoroughly examine the scab and the wounded site. The thickness, texture, did I rip out tiny hairs when I pulled it off? Is that a little rock embedded in there? Wow, I didn’t expect it to bleed like that! How many layers of skin did that take off?
The last month has been me reliving this childhood experience of picking scabs.
Except these scabs aren’t on my knees and elbows, they are on my heart and soul, the essence of who I am.
The scabs are different.
They are the excuses, the fears, the long-held beliefs picked up from family, childhood experiences, and society that no longer serve me.
The process is essentially the same.
I pick the scab. I give it a thorough examination. Where did it come from? How does it feel? Anger? Shame? Guilt? What is hiding underneath? Does it bleed? A couple of days later, I pick the scab again and reexamine it.
Some scabs have healed. They weren’t too deep, nor did they bleed much.
Others hurt like hell and bleed like crazy, and need more time.
What does picking scabs have to do with blogging?
Successful Or Not
You have to pick the scabs to get to the root of the fear, excuses, and anything else holding you back. This will reveal the core belief of why you’re not disciplined and consistent. It will show you why you make excuses for not writing that blog post or anything else you are struggling with in life.
I believe that you must do this deep inner work before you can effectively apply any other positive personal development strategies. If you don’t pick the scabs and heal the wounds first, you will always have an excuse or underlining belief that will sabotage all your efforts and success.
Until then, blogging will be hard.
Being disciplined and consistent will be a challenge.
The work will also help you bring clarity if you are trying to figure out what you want to do with your life.
The direction I want to take my business has become much clearer, and I have had a hard time keeping track of all the ideas I have had over the last month. It has been inspiring, and I can hardly wait to implement some of them.
Now you know why I haven’t been blogging or online much.
Time & Grace
Even though it goes against the blogging rules, I decided to take this break. The result will outweigh any negative impact my stepping away for a bit will have.
I need time away from outside influences, opinions, and expectations to pick some scabs and heal some wounds.
Besides, rules are only someone else’s beliefs that may or may not serve you. Let them go if it fits you to do so.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, be kind to yourself. Give yourself the time and grace you need to go through the process.
You’re worth it.
The person showing up on the other side is worth it.
This was not the post I expected when I sat down to write.
It is much too raw and vulnerable. Something I have always tried very hard not to be.
But, since I am learning to “give up control” and “trust that everything will work out,” this is what it is.
We all have our journeys, trials, and tribulations to endure and lessons to learn.
Remember that the universe has your back wherever you are on your journey.
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Anything else you would like to share?
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SharlaAnn is a blogger who focuses on helping others develop the mindset and skills needed to build successful blogs. She is always up for a challenge and is a determined student of personal development and SEO.
10 thoughts on “Why Is Blogging So Hard?”
Hi Sharla Ann, I’ve always said if I knew at the beginning what I know now, I probably would not have started to blog. It was better I was naive to get into it and found a love for it. Now I can be consistent and not mind working hard at it.
I love your analogy with the scabs. I have a bad one from when I fell off a bike as a kid and the dirt got into it. I’ll be thinking of you the next time I see it.
Would you have started to blog too SharlaAnn if you knew what you know now?
Hi Lisa, Honestly, I hadn’t really given much thought to blogging before I started. It was one of those things where one thing led to another and I said “Hey, I could do that.” There have definitely been many “OMG, I don’t think I can do this.” days since then but I wouldn’t change it for anything. I have learned too much about myself, blogging, marketing, online business, and met so many great people to want to give it up now. I can see why so many people don’t stick it out though.
I was such a tomboy growing up I was always covered in scabs. Even burnt my leg on a motorbike exhaust once. Oddly enough, no scars, or broken bones.
Thanks so much for the comment, Lisa.
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You did not intend the post to be raw or vulnerable, and yet that’s what I loved most about it. Yes, discipline and consistency are hard to maintain, especially when you don’t see the effects of blogging overnight.
You can write a weekly blog post for 2-3 months and have only a slight increase in traffic or any other metrics you measure your blog growth by.
It can be demotivating then to drag yourself to your laptop and write a long blog post.
But the best part is, when the SEO and other results kick in, it is immensely gratifying.
So a lot of what you mentioned, working on your manifesting techniques, having faith that it will eventually work, is important, to truly be committed to blogging in the long run and get the results you want.
There are many great things about blogging. It can be immensely gratifying, but you have to keep going. Even if you have to drag yourself to your laptop.
Because if you quit, you will never know how great it can be, and if it’s always great you haven’t challenged yourself or learned anything. 🙂
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Blogging is both hard and easy; how’s that for an opening? I’ve been blogging since 2005, and I’ve remained relatively consistent throughout the years.
The easy part is knowing within minutes what I want to write about. The hard part is that sometimes I don’t write because I’m not ready to live up to my expectations of how I usually write.
Truthfully, if it wasn’t for the early years of blogging I might not have kept it up for so long. Back then, you could write 200 word articles, the search engines loved you, your visitors loved you, and it was easy to get a lot of comments. Times changed, search engines demanded more and better content, and even though I embraced that what’s been a bit more difficult is that I don’t get close to the amount of feedback I used to get.
The most important question to answer when it comes to blogging is who you’re blogging for. I decided many years ago that I blog for myself, even if what I blog about it geared towards an audience that’s not me… but the type of content I wish I saw on other blogs most of the time.
I’ve also given myself permission to take a break when necessary. These days I take a year of end break, and if something’s going on in my life I’ll take a break then. We have to be true to ourselves no matter what; we also have to take care of ourselves, right? 😉
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That’s a long time. Things have changed drastically since 2005 and I wonder if part of the reason you don’t see the results in terms of comments and engagement that you use to is that people have become so desensitized.
We are constantly bombarded with all kinds of crap online that most people don’t even know what they read or watched 30 seconds after it happens. Add that to the fact that we have forgotten that sometimes there is an actual person on the other side of that blog post you just read. We are losing the human connection.
That being said I think writing for yourself is smart. I believe that we can attract the kind of people who find value in our writing if we do that.
And I am so happy to hear that you look after yourself. That is the most important thing, always.
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your insight.
SharlaAnn Matyjanka recently posted…5 Signs You Need A Break
I realized I never responded to your comment on my comment; I also noticed you haven’t written anything new in a while, so this is also a bit of encouragement. 🙂
I think the actual reason why blogs don’t get the kind of comments they used to back in the day is that in today’s world there’s a lot more distractions. For instance, back in 2005 there really wasn’t any social media. MySpace was brand new and those weren’t folks who actually visited blogs so it wasn’t much of a loss. No Twitter, no Facebook, no Instagram, etc. No streaming services, and YouTube was just launching. So there wasn’t much competition, and people wanted to engage with each other. That’s why blogging becomes a long game type of thing; it might not help in some ways, but it helps a lot in other ways. At the very least, it lets us get things off our minds. 🙂
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Blogging is hard only when you don’t know the right path or right strategy to work. People failed in blogging because they do not work consistently and don’t have the patience to see some results. They quit very quickly because they think blogging is a get-quick scheme, but it is not. Blogging is a serious business and it demands consistent work in the right direction. Btw keep sharing valuable stuff.
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Blogging seems incredibility difficult up to the moment where bloggers decide to follow only professional blogger advice. At that point, blogging still feels uncomfortable in moments but amateur-hour difficulties begin to dissolve because you start doing what works and stop doing what doesn’t work. Making this decision changes blogging course, for all of us. Of course, this journey means facing ample fear which feels highly unpleasant sometimes. Fabulous post here.
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Checking back in a good 9 months later my friend. I hope all is well. Keep rocking it out with your blog.
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