social media-have you been cursed?

Social Media-Have You Been Cursed?

Social Media-Have You Been Cursed?

Do you feel cursed by social media?

Maybe you feel like a dark cloud or heaviness hangs over you when you are on social media, or that you feel drained and even angry after.

I struggled with this curse for far too long. Like everything else, learning how to use social media to better ourselves and others is a skill that requires practice. 

Fortunately, you’re not cursed. Also, you can take steps to make social media a positive experience and get it working for you. The best news is that anyone can do it. Yes, anyone can make using social media a positive experience.

So, now that we have established that you are not cursed, let’s look at what is going on.

You’re Not Cursed, The Wrong People Surround You.

Social media is an extension of your circle of friends and acquaintances. Are the people you usually surround yourself with draining, soul-sucking leeches, or do they motivate and uplift you?

These draining, soul-sucking leeches are not necessarily bad people; they may not be the best people to be spending a lot of time around. If you seek growth and expansion, you will not get far surrounded by people who bring you down.

The same is true for the people you interact with on social media. What type of content are they posting? Is it a constant string of negativity, or do their posts offer valuable positive content that serves to teach and uplift?

It is easy to get sucked into a vortex of negativity.

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So, what can you do if you find yourself getting burnt out by the curse of social media?

Breaking The Curse of Social Media. 

There are several different things people can try to break the curse of social media. 

You can:

  1. do a social media detox
  2. unfriend, block, unfollow negative people
  3. block “news” outlets, advertisements, and sponsored posts that don’t serve you
  4. refrain from leaving negative comments
  5. avoid getting sucked into other people’s drama
  6. surround yourself with positive offline influences

#1. Social Media Detox 

What is a social media detox? 

A social media detox is a set amount of time spent away from social media or, ideally, all online interactions. It can be for a day, a week, or any amount of time that works for you. 

I like to do this regularly, and every Sunday, my kids have a no-screen day. That means no phone, video games, computer, or social media.

It is good to enjoy a break from the online world, especially when it’s negative and draining. This break can help you see areas that need improvement when you do come back. 

This break can be challenging for most people. Myself included. It is very challenging when our business is all online. But, be assured, a day or two away from social media will be good for you. With regular practice, you will soon see the benefits of taking breaks from social media. 

Read more about why you need to take a break here.

Besides, the best way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem. If the social media curse is a problem, you need to stop participating in social media. At least for a bit, until you take back control and don’t allow it to be a problem anymore. 

#2. Unfriend, Block, Unfollow Negative People 

When you find repetitive negativity popping up on your news feed, unfriend, block, or unfollow the person responsible for putting it there. Now, I’m not talking about the occasional post where someone might be having a bad day and needs to vent. I’m talking about the people who never have anything positive to say. 

If you need to block someone from social media, they will not get a notification of the block. 

If you only know someone online or through social media, I would unfriend or unfollow them. 

Your peace of mind and staying away from that negativity should be your priority. 

I have unfriended numerous Facebook “friends” and even some family members over the years because I couldn’t handle the rubbish they were constantly posting. I unfriended my entire Facebook friends list not long ago because I was tired of Facebook and what I continually saw on that platform. I would have deleted my account except that I belong to some homeschooling groups that I need to stay in contact with. 

A couple of weeks ago, I started sending out friend requests again. This time with the intention that I only want people who are supportive, positive, and uplifting showing on my news feed. Anything that shows up on my feed that does not align with my values and goals will be blocked. That doesn’t mean I have to agree with everything you say, but I will not tolerate constant negativity from anyone.

It was tough for me to let go of these “friends” but, I felt better once I mustered up the courage to do so. I feel lighter, and freer having let go of what I knew wasn’t serving me. 

Don’t let negative people limit your success. 

give the negativity curse the boot

#3. Block News Agency’s, Advertisements, and Sponsored Posts 

I block “news,” ads, and sponsored posts that I don’t want to see in my feeds. 

These may not be negative but, who wants to be constantly bombarded by advertisements.

It is draining. 

If it has no value to you, block it. 

I just spent 5 minutes going through my Facebook feed to find an example of a “news” article or advertisement that I would block to show you an example. All that came up were posts from my spinning and crochet/knitting groups, homeschool groups, and posts from some wonderful people who share the same enthusiasm for blogging that I do. It would seem I am doing a great job of keeping the stuff I don’t want to see off my Facebook feed. 

If you also want to connect with enthusiastic bloggers on Facebook I recommend Ryan Biddulph, Sue-Ann Bubacz, and Vishwajeet Kumar.

These positive posts make me warm and fuzzy inside. 🙂

When I don’t have to scroll through countless posts that I find draining and irritating, I find greater enjoyment in seeing the posts that make me happy. 

To keep up the positivity, you need to be mindful that you are also putting positivity out there.

#4. Don’t Leave Negative Comments or Posts 

What you put out into the universe will come back to you.

If you don’t want to see negativity, don’t be negative. 

Avoid making negative posts or adding negative comments to other people’s posts. 

If I find myself tempted to leave a comment on a post that isn’t positive, helpful, or kind, I know that is my cue to get off social media. NOW. 

Staying present and avoiding mindless scrolling will help combat this. When we are mindlessly scrolling through our social feeds, we are much more likely to comment or repost dumb shit mindlessly. 

Please don’t do that. 

Also,

#5. Don’t Get Sucked Into Other People’s Drama 

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Getting sucked into drama usually happens with personal friends and family. Something happens in their life, and they post it. You feel obligated to respond. Again, please don’t do it. If it requires a comment or conversation, do it privately. 

Getting involved in drama is messy. It is worse when you do it online because there are more witnesses, and stuff is out “there” forever.

If you have friends or family members who tend to cause or be involved in constant drama, it may be a good idea to block them. 

Remember, if your personal life is full of drama and negativity, your online life will be too. When your personal life is full of negativity, that will carry over into your business.

You cannot live a positive personal life and a negative online life simultaneously.

You cannot live a negative personal life and a positive business life simultaneously. 

Can you see where this is going?

Negativity will find its way into all areas of your life if you are not consciously promoting positivity. 

#6. Surround Yourself With Positive Offline Influences 

When you eliminate negativity from your offline life, you will see how draining it is online. Positive offline influences will help your social media a more positive space.

What are some excellent positive offline influences? 

  • read good personal development books
  • listen to motivational podcasts
  • journal
  • meditate
  • spend time with positive people who support you
  • spend time in nature
  • listen to uplifting music 

Practice one or more of these every day. It will not only improve your social media interactions but all areas of your life. Spend more time on these activities while doing your social media detox. 

Turning That Curse Into a Blessing.

Do you understand that the curse of social media isn’t a curse at all? It’s a cycle of negativity that we all have the power to eliminate if we choose. 

You have learned some powerful ways to turn that curse into a blessing. 

Start using social media the way it was intended. To empower, uplift, and add value to your life and the life of others. 

Surround yourself with positive people online and off. 

Social media can be a powerful tool for good when you break the curse. 

Remember, sometimes, the best way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem. 

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