Hope you had a fantastic weekend. We are in the middle of a heatwave here. I would do a happy dance to see a good rain. It is dry. A good rain would mean a nice break from watering my garden. That being said spending so much time in one of my favorite happy places allows me much needed time to think. This is good because sometimes it takes me awhile to figure things out.
Have you ever had an experience where something you feel should be so easy just seems to be so darn difficult? Something that others seem to get with very little effort, or so it seems. Well I had one such experience that was an ongoing issue for…..just over a year. Yep, you read that right. Over a year this question was rolling around in my brain and I was never satisfied with any answer I came up with.
It is one I am sure you are very familiar with. The question I was struggling with was, Why? Specifically MY why. Why do you want to build an online business? Why do you want multiple streams of income? Why would you want to quit your very comfortable, and safe day job? The Why that is also your motivation for putting in a few extra hours after you get home from your safe and comfortable day job and the kids are in bed. The Why that keeps you going when everyone (with the best intentions) tells you that you are foolish, crazy, or will never make it. The Why that truly understands what is in your heart maybe even before you do. That Why. That was my struggle. For the last year and a bit. I know, it’s crazy right?
I have the standard reasons. The same as most people. I want to be able to spend more time with my family doing amazing things together. I want financial freedom and stability. I want to spend winters somewhere on a tropical beach, or anywhere it doesn’t snow and get below freezing. I want to be able to help those less fortunate. But isn’t this what everyone wants? I mean, I don’t know anyone that would say no to any of this. Except maybe a handful of people who love the freezing snow! Yet I felt that even with all these great reasons something was still missing. I needed to dig deeper.
Digging for Gold Would Be Easier
Until one day I came across this book. So naturally I ordered it. Books are definitely a weak spot. Little did I know that one simple exercise contained in this book would finally help me figure out MY why. Even though I had been on this journey for over a year, something in this book finally made it click for me. I finally figured out why I wanted my time and financial freedom. I mean really wanted it. Not just to spend time with the family and being able to afford fun stuff. But why it is so important to ME to achieve these goals. It boils down to the fact that I like/want to be in control of as much of my life as possible. I need to have control of my income and time. Nothing or no one should get in the way of that.
Early in 2020 when the lockdowns first happened here, I was told that I was not able to go to work for 2 weeks. Well those 2 weeks turned into 3 months. Then later in the year I was shut down for another 2 weeks. The total compensation the government offered for those 3 months was about what I would normally make in 1 month. I wasn’t even able to get compensated for the last 2 weeks. That was not a good situation to be in. I mean when you suddenly lose your main income stream like that with no other options it can put you in a really bad place very quickly. That is when you know it is time to change things. I know so many people who suffered even worse. People who lost their main income stream and had no savings or investments. It is just not a good place to be. This is why achieving that financial freedom is so important. Also by achieving it in a way that allows me to work from anywhere, then maybe no one can tell me I can’t do it?
If I have the ability to work from anywhere, and I set my own hours, I am naturally achieving the time freedom goal. I really think the two go hand in hand. Yes! Good bye winter, hello tropical beach!
But That’s Not All
Another big discovery was made during this process. I had to go one step further and figure out why I had such a hard time with why. Well, when most people talk about reaching their financial goals usually one of the first things they talk about is leaving that safe, comfortable day job. The one that eats a huge chunk of their time, and they don’t really enjoy it. Anytime I thought about leaving my day job I would just feel this awful gnawing pit in my stomach. I was automatically connecting that having a second, more successful income stream meant I had to quit my job.
I didn’t like it.
Quit my job?
I love my job.
I love being able to help people become pain free or destress or finally be able to get rid of those nasty tension headaches. I help them fix issues that they have sometimes lived with for years. Often with the thought that it’s just what it is, or it’s all in their head. To see people finally get relief is amazing. There are so many more people that I can help, and besides, I still have so much more to learn. I just can’t bear the thought of giving that up yet.
So when I would say to myself things like “I’m going to start a side hustle and by New Years I am going to quit my job!” I just wasn’t having it. It took me a good long while to figure out it didn’t have to be a one or the other situation.
Hey I said at the very beginning of this post that it sometimes takes me awhile!
So all the time I have been able to spend in my garden, my happy place, just thinking about all of this has given my plenty of time to figure it out. I will build a successful online business. Why? To have control of my finances and time. BUT, I will keep my day job in some capacity until I no longer enjoy it or physically can not do it anymore.
Now that I have that figured out and out of the way I am super excited to move forward on this incredible journey.
What about you?
I would love to hear your experiences going through the Why process. Did you find it easy or did you really struggle with it like I did. Also if you would like to share your Why please leave a comment. I would love to hear from you.